True love is impossible until you are free. And you cannot be free until you stop clinging to your anxieties and your "programming."
The Illusion of Loss: We fear losing people or things because we have labeled them as ours. De Mello invites readers to see that nothing is truly ours, and therefore, nothing can be lost. Anthony De Mello - The Way To Love -pdf-
That is the Way to Love. You sit by the river of life. You let people come and go. You let experiences rise and fall. You are the riverbank, not the fish. True love is impossible until you are free